Why is it AUSSUMED (falsly most like in most cases) a young (ie 20s) teacher and student over the age of concent or very close relationship is abuse of power or other claptrap.
Is it so unlikely and amazing a thought ... drum roll.
World news..
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That most people on this planet are not preditory, dont give a monkeys about power. Are not bullies.
And just happen to like each other and want to be specail freined as they fancy each other as well.
And will either stay togther maybe longer then many marraiges, fissle out or realise they aint suited and split up naturally like any other relationship?
Any no Im not a teacher but fail to see what anyones job be they a soldier, sailor or candlestick maker has to do with it.
Same applies to doctors, and patients, alien and warewolf, black and white whatever.
Plus if you think 16-19 year olds are all wimpy and innocnet you need to get out more.
And go see what they get up to in raves and parties.
Why is it AUSSUMED (falsly most like in most cases) a young (ie 20s) teacher and student relationship is abusemicrosoft live
I'm going out with someone who is nearly 5 years older then me and I'm in my teens and tbh its the best relationship I've had...but difference is my boyfriend doesnt have a profession which is to care for me and influence me in the world. Teachers are there to lead teens into a better way of life to guide them... this shows they need help and guidance and if they take advantage of that help then its wrong.
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let me guess....you don't have any children of your own and you're about 15?
Because its the LAW.
If they are that in love, they should have no problem waiting until the MINOR is NOT a minor any more.
Waiting takes maturity--if they can't wait, they aren't mature.
Because its wrong!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
It the same as any job. You don't date those who you teach. Whether it be a supervisor and associate or Teacher and student.
it is an abuse of the code of conduct, an abuse of a position of authority. if the relationship is that important the teacher / professional should change their job before consummating the relationship.
stop rambling, are you even a teacher and if so your desperate to date your student. it is seemed wrong because of the age gap and the fact that you are supposedly their guardian during school in a way its like dating your mum or something if she looked after you
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wtf are you talking bout? ur just ******* rambling on about nothing you jackass.
look it's probably not abusive in the sense that your thinking of. but it abuses the code of conduct, and abuses her authority. also what happens if they break up that teacher could make the students life hell, or vice versa.
Because when a teacher becomes a teacher they take on responsibilities, one of which is the care of children. And having a sexual relationship with a child, ie under the age of eighteen is seen as an abuse of that responsibility.
Whether they fancy each other or not, the adult in the equation has to be the one to ensure it goes no further than a teacher/student relationship.
You know what, I did not read through all of your post. I think it's pretty obvious what you are getting at. Do you know that all tertiary education facilities prohibit student teacher relationships. Do you know why?
When one individual is in a position of power over the other, like a teacher and student or a boss and his secretary, there will be an inevitable overlap in the personal and profession relationship. That will inevitably lead to discord, resentment, and conflict. In such a relationship there can never be equality, and don't you think that when two people are in a relationship together they should be equals?
So here is the skinny on you and your younger man. If you love him, then you can wait until he is not your student, or going to your school, to have a relationship with him. If you don't love him, then you can do without him.
So please, stop bitching.
i think people see it as abuse of trust more than anything, parents send their children to school and expect them to be looked after and trust the teacher like an extension of family. if you can say that you would meet and start a relationship with a 16 yr old if they were not a pupil it's unlikely(when i say you...i don't actually mean you!)
well ...we can all tell your not a teacher by your spelling and if a person is 18 or over its their decision on what they do with their life and one younger than 18 still has parents to answer to and it is up to the parent /parents to protect their children .
For starters, a teacher's position to a student is one of power. Purposefully pursuing a student-- especially a minor-- from this position is the VERY DEFINITION of abuse.
Secondly, back to the point about the student being a minor: that would be called illegal.
As for 16-19 year olds being "whimpy". No, son, it's not all that. Wait till you grow up some, and you'll see just how very young 16-19 really is.
If you can't see how wrong this is - you are in the wrong job!
Thank God you don't teach my child.
How about this, drumroll, abuse of power. Suppose for the sake of your argument, teacher-student relationships were allowed, then the student does something teenage like, er I dont know, flirt, then the teacher lowers the grade because he/she is mad. Not going to happen you say, then either you are younger than you admit or are so naive you shouldnt be let out of the house without a guardian. Oh yeah one more thing if you are going to use a big word like assumed, spell it right at least once when you use it
Hmm raw nerve country here.
The simple fact is that teachers are given 'power' over students and are expected to use this wisely. They are, to a certain extent, moral guardians of the young and as much as you might want to analyse it and draw comparisons they have a role which is fairly unique - akin to that of parents.
The issue that people have with this is that if a teacher is looking romantically at a student then they may be swayed from guiding them down the path of what is best for them objectively.
There is also a concern that because they wield this authority that they could coerce the student who is 'young and impressionable' into something against their will or best interests - effectively 'leading them astray'.
Obviously I dont need to discuss the issues around doing this with under-age students.
The simple fact is that in modern society this relationship is seen as fundamentally wrong and an abuse of position, power and trust and as long as parents exist in the world I think it unlikely to change.
I DON'T think that there is anything wrong with someone having a relationship in theri early- late 20's with someone who is of a responsible age. THE PROBLEM with theacher-student relations, is that the teacher is in a position of authority, so when they get into a relationship with a student, it becomes an ethics violation. Not to mention, a conflict of interest.
